Why Love Isn’t Always Enough!?

The Girl I Loved for 22 Years (and Why Love Isn’t Always Enough)

I still remember the moment I first saw her: the way her eyes held a quiet amusement, the soft curve of her smile. For a second my throat tightened and the room went oddly small—then she said, “Hi,” and the world felt new. It was one of those tiny, impossible moments that later become a lens for how you measure everything else.

We met in small, ordinary ways that suddenly felt incandescent. Later that day she sat in the canteen chatting with colleagues; I hovered with the lads, keeping my voice casual while my heart tried to make sense of the fact I was near her. When I finally breathed out a conversation, she listened like she had nothing else to do.

Her laugh landed like a warm hand on something inside me. I left the table grinning, stunned at how ordinary minutes could feel like miracles.

Our romance began on a day I’ll never forget: December 25, 2004, at Raffles Hospital. We started dating soon after, and for a while it seemed like the script every young person imagines—romance peppered with witty banter, late-night talks, small rituals that stitched us together. We disagreed—of course we did—but we had a rhythm of cooling down, of apologizing, of returning to the easy places in each other’s company. It felt enduring.

And yet, things changed. The relationship I thought would define my life didn’t last in the romantic sense. We drifted into different seasons, priorities shifted, and that childhood notion of “forever” proved more fragile than I wanted to admit. But something unexpected happened: we didn’t vanish from each other’s lives. The romantic flame dimmed, and an affection of a different kind grew—steadier, gentler, and in some ways more honest. For twenty-two years we carried an arc of friendship that outlived the initial passion.

What that taught me wasn’t that love fails—rather that love has many shapes and outcomes. Here are the deeper lessons I took from our story:

• Love isn't only a destination. Many people treat “being together” as the ultimate sign that love succeeded, but love can be present even without a shared address or a joint future. Love can be the patience you show someone when life pulls them away, the stories you keep, and the care you extend after romance ends.

• Presence matters more than permanence. Small attentions—listening when it matters, remembering details, being reliable—build a reservoir of goodwill and intimacy that lasts longer than fireworks. Those small things keep relationships alive in different forms.

• Communication and honesty reshape love. When romance fizzles, honesty about needs, boundaries, and intentions is what makes a transition into friendship possible. You owe truth to yourself and to the person you care about; it can be painful, but it’s also liberating.

• Trust and loyalty are the scaffolding. We fought and made up, and that pattern taught me how to repair rather than retreat. Loyalty isn’t always staying in the same role; sometimes it’s staying committed to the person’s well-being even when roles change.

• Grief and gratitude can co-exist. You can mourn the version of love that didn’t last while being grateful for the years you had. Those mixed emotions are normal and human. Allowing both grief and gratitude gives you space to grow, instead of trapping you in blame or denial.

• Identity grows outside of relationship labels. Part of loving someone for that long is learning who you are with and without them. I found parts of myself I hadn’t known—the patience to listen without needing to be heard, the ability to love someone’s happiness even if it wasn’t my happiness always.

If I could speak to my younger self on December 25, 2004, I’d say: cherish the wonder, but build the habits that endure. Fall in love with the person, and fall equally in love with practices that keep connections humane—saying sorry well, asking hard questions, giving space when it’s needed, and showing up when it matters.

Twenty-two years later, she remains the love of my life in a way that surprises people who equate “love” only with marriage or cohabitation. For me, love has been a long conversation: first breathless and urgent, then steady, sometimes aching, sometimes easy. It has taught me that relationships are not failures because they change course—they are evolving stories. Some chapters end, others begin; what matters is how you carry forward what you’ve learned.

If there is one practical takeaway from our story, it’s this: nurture relationships with intention. Ask yourself regularly what the person needs, what you need, and whether your actions match your words. Practice small rituals of attention. Speak honestly when things shift. These practices don’t guarantee every relationship will stay romantic—but they do offer a chance for respect, care, and enduring friendship.

In the end, love is not a victory lap or a certificate. It’s a living thing that demands patience, courage, and clarity. Sometimes it gives you a lifetime together; sometimes it gives you a lifetime of memories and a friendship that quietly sustains you. Both can be beautiful.

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Experience in Athens

It’s been a while, I haven post any stories probably today is the right time to write something that I have encounter few months ago.

On 16 February 2013, during my trip to Athens from Roma, I was anxious to visit Greece for the first time, to know about the culture, to see the old sculpture and so on.  When arrive to Athens Airport, my heart beating so fast, participating to visit the famous Parthenon museum at Acropolis.

I brag my luggage, searching for Metro. One thing about the Metro, it is difficult to find the actual location, it takes me few minutes to wonder where the arrow direct to that locations. Finally, I found the Metro is located above level 2 opposite the Airport. So I walked towards the counter asking the price tickets to Acropolis. She told me,” 8 euros. So I paid the ticket then thereafter walk at the ticket booth.  I took escalator downwards and enter the Metro. Is actually, not too crowded. After the next few stops, it started to fill with people. I need to stand really deep corner so that my luggage won’t block their way.

Finally, I stop at Acropolis Stations. Then from there I walked up and look for my hotel. It took me 15mins to reach there. When I tried to open the door, is so hard, then this nice old guy tried to explain how to enter, I don’t understand his language so he help me to push the door. I say, “Thank you, but he didn’t response, he walked off. Probably, he is in a bad mood or something. I enter inside the hotel walking towards the receptions. The receptionist is kind and nice. He Shown me the direction to my room, and wish me pleasant a stayed. It was a cozy hotel, art paint and sculptures everywhere. The strange part of the hotel, the lift has a door knob. It’s a first time for me to use the lift with a door knob.

I enter to my room. Is so warm and cozy, the bed is so soft is like a feather. I removed my jacket and jump onto my bed and close my eyes for few hours.  I slept almost 2 hours, is getting dawn the time is about 1845hrs. I wash my face, take my things and go out from my hotel. When I open the exit door from the hotel, the light rain is started to pouring. Without any doubts, I just walked out from the hotel and walk along the alley of the hotel. While I was walking toward the Parthenon, a guy came out from no way, asking me for directions. I told him, “I just came from Roma; and it’s my first time in Athens. The Italian guy told me the same thing. Surprising he stayed at the hotel where I live. So, he invited me to walk with him. I follow but in my thoughts, I don’t trust him at all even though he shown me his girlfriend photos just to prove his genuine but I don’t think twice, just follow him.

He bring me to the bar which these no customer inside. We order a drink, he insists to have beer but I told him, I don’t drink alcohol. So I order for myself orange juice. We sat down and have a conversation, and then these ladies out from nowhere join us for a drink. They were asking us, if we allow drinking with them. I told them no, but this Italian guy say,” its ok, be happy. We chat and the ladies order 2 bottles of wines. Just try to entertain us. My thoughts telling me, I have been punk. When I tried to escape from the bar, the Greek guy stop me and telling me to paid up. He shows me the receipt, the cost for the drinks is 450 euros including tax. I was extremely shock! I never expect to be that much, I told him, I only had 300 euros, he insist me to pay otherwise I won’t go out from the bar. They force me to take out my wallet but I try to resist them, I told them,” I don’t have any money left; I want to pay for my own drinks not the ladies, I want to call the polis and I won’t pay any cents for them. The Greek guy told me,” I supposed to call the polis not you, if you don’t pay up, how I can pay for my rental, my employee and fed my family. The Italian guy, interfere and tried to keep us calm, so he tell the Greek guy, he will pay for me 150 euros and the balance I must pay to him. Without any choice, I pay up the balance of the money. The Greek guy tells us, now you can go. In my thoughts, is a bullshits.

The Italian guy says to me, his not involved any of them. For me, his is lying. He, asking me, if I want to join him to walk up to Parthenon, immediately I say NO! I want to go home. He tried his best to accommodate me but I don’t have the mood to listen any of his bullshit stories. He leading me the way to my hotel and from there I don’t even bother to look at him. Slowly I walked to my hotel and tilt my head just to be sure he doesn’t follow me or any stranger monitoring me. In few minutes, I safely arrived to my hotel, go up to my room analyzing what really happen and why can’t I prevent all this. So many if’s come out from my brain. When I look at my watch is 2015hrs, I couldn’t sleep or eat, only thinking. Till Midnight my eyes started to close slowly.

The next day, I woke up at 0630hrs. I feel a little bit depressed due to yesterday incident. An hour later, I go down from my room to take my breakfast. The breakfast isn’t that bad. Nice cereal and soup. I ate and in the same time thinking about yesterday incident. At times, life can be unfair. Oh well, that’s life. After, my breakfast, I went to Parthenon and old city. I took allot of photos. I walked around almost 5 hours. I went back to my hotel and thinking about the scenario which happen yesterday.

After analyzing the scenario, I guess, they do it because the economy in Greece is bad and after observing not so much tourist in Athens, only few people walking along the mall. Maybe winter season these no so much tourist or maybe it could be other possibilities. Anyway, it all doesn’t matter anymore, what matters now.

Never travel alone if you not familiar with that country and never trust a stranger if they pretend to be nice. Always trust your instinct and never follow their lead, otherwise you may end up like me.

Loved or being in Love..

During our younger days in high school or undergrad, we may fall in love or have a crush with someone whom we admired. Is not easy to exposed our feeling towards the person we admired. Most of us think, "Is impossible, she may reject me? and doesn't want to end up feel miserable and hide under the blanket.

In reality checked. We may feel ashamed to express our feelings but it doesn't mean we can't tried at all. Is about courage and dignity. Some may think our appearance or our status is not suitable for the girl we admired and probably she too beautiful for me that I can't look at her eyes but I only can see her boobies..

Nevertheless, is about how you talked with confidence. Some girl feel the same way too, feel shy or speechless with the guy she admired. Most girls have their own fantasy, she also has their own criteria, which they keep by themselves. Most guys doesn't know what really girls want till they find out themselves by having relationships with her. Most girls won't exposed their character immediately till they trusted that guy.

"Love can superseded if they found someone whom match their criteria."

Unfortunately they don't realized what love means to a person, till they deeply found out that the person isn't what they expected to be. Love can link to several criteria. It depend on how we want to adverse it.

Life can be good if we accept the person whom they are, not what they have to offer. Probably in few years they may end up find other person whom they can connected too. Choose whom has same interested, which you feel comfortable. But there's always a cons towards the end. How we going to overcome it? "Adapt and accept their personalities unless bad habit such as alcoholic or drags addict then is exceptional, this kind of person need send special intensive care. For them to revive from depression.

Some girls prefer a bad ass guy, for them, they are very exciting and slightly different, mostly relate to beautiful girls who get bored with nice guys, due to, to much attention, they want something new, they want adventure, mystery and romance because they are young and they need something to excite them. Once they get all this experience of excitement, they will definitely will give you her love.


"The pros, you no need to be a millionaire or superstar, just be a person she want you to be that can excite them"

"The cons, don't ever try something stupid which lead the girl hate you by judging or forcing them"

 

The other thing I need to emphasise about girls, during their mid twenties, their mentality may not be the same as teenager, because they want someone whom they can depend on, a little fantasy should not be a problem because the want to feel the same during their younger years.

In General not all girls the same some don't even thought of having relationships, some are les.. you know what I mean, some want friendship before they can commit, some immediate throw their love to you (This girls need to be aware of) and some take few years to realized his the one. It depend whom your admired even she quite disturbing, try to understand them and don't let your moral down if they girl reject or ignore you, give yourself a boost by applauding for what you have done and achieve.

Importantly, let the love lead the way, either you in loved or being in love.. good times, will comes ahead without you noticing it.
 

REMEMBER KOH SAMUI

Is been a while, I have not write any article which I constantly post every once a week.

Last Sunday, I was having my thorough cleaning, then coincident, I found my old video/photos CD of Thailand (Samui) Trip, the file contain the memories during my stayed in samui island, that's the best moment I ever had. These friendliest Thai people make me feel like home. My trip lasted for 8 days, I wish, I could extend much longer but unfortunately, time doesn't allowed me due to my work commitment.

Lamai Beach - photographer me :)

During my time in Koh Samui, I have no plan, even no idea why I was travelling alone? When I arrived to Samui Airport, my thoughts only focus on accommodation and how to get any hotel or resort available during this peak period. after I pass thru custom, I walked straight to travel information counter to find available room for three night. They have room located at Ang Thong Beach, I can't recall the name of this resort, but it was a lame beach I ever seen. When I reach my resort, It was almost 6 pm. The surrounding was so quiet is like a ghost town. My mistake, I should read lonely planet before planing this trip but fortunately, I managed to find a map and directory to guide me.

Mae Nam Beach - photographer me :)
  

The next day, I woke up early in the morning, just to snap sunrise photos, unfortunately, the sun is already rise high above the sky. Well, I tell myself,  "I should wake up early in morning before 5am, otherwise I will miss it again". After having breakfast, I grab my things and go down to the reception asking for direction. They explained to me, how and where to go from this destination to chaweng beach, whereby allot of tourist hang out at this area. I took "tot tot" (taxi) to chaweng beach, It takes 30 minutes to reach to there. When I arrived to chaweng beach, I can't believe my eyes, the beach was so extraodinary. I stroll along the beach and finding my spot for relaxed. The breeze wind feel like heaven and also hell due to hot sun but it doesn't matter. I occupy my time on the beach approximately 5 hours top, then return to my lame resort.

Chaweng Beach - photograper me :)

  

On the evening, I search for a restaurant nearby to my resort, the restaurant I found has good ambience is so lovely, they have live music, and food is very tasty. To be honest, whenever, I went to Thailand, I will definately order Tom Yam as my main dishes because that's one of my favourite food, Yummy!

The third day of my last night in Lamai, I went to Nara-Seraket (I'm not to sure how to pronouce it) Anyway, the map show that there is a jungle where the stream flow. In order to reach to this nature reserve, I must follow the yellow brick road.. (Just kidding) follow the map actually, so I walked slowly to this lane where it shown on the map. Is actually not to far from my resort, it take 1 day to reach there (Just kidding) about 25min walking distance. So, I go in with my T-Shirt and bemuda without any antiseptic. So I go thru the jungle as the sign guide me to direction on how to get there. When I reach to the destination, the ambience of fresh air and the nice stream was so refreshing and cooling. No wonder they are healthy with this nature airborne go thru ther lungs, it would eventually expand and detox the liver.

Somewhere near Nara-Saraket Nature Reserve - photographer me :)

After I went out from nature reserve, I walked up nearby to my resort at Thetsaban Na Thon Pier. When I arrived, It was so windy till my cap flew off. It's so amazing feelings, I wish, my country have the same atmosphere. I sat about an hours, close my eyes, listen to the wind blows. The wind touches my skin and my mind totally blank without any single thoughts. Is awesome experience, that I will never forget. It almost dawn, so is time for me to go back to my lame resort for the last night.

Thetsaban Na Thon Pier - photographer me again :)

On the forth day, I looking for another resort, thought staying at Chaweng Beach, but unfortunately most of the resort at that area, has no room available. Then I went to Lamai Beach looking for luck, after long hours walking with my heavy backpack, I finally I saw Weekender which very interesting to me, so I went in, and asked," Do you have room available? they say yes, but a we have only  banglore room available which cost 50usd per night, I said,"well, no problem. I registered about 15 minutes, then finally I got my key room, it was so amazing. Actually, I wanted to stay for 2 night at Lamai Beach, because my original plan is to book resort in Chaweng during my last 2 night, but I end up staying at this resort till my departure.

During my stayed in Weekender, Ms. Jane (The Receptionist) help me allot, she teach me how to ride a motorbike and show me direction to attractive places. It was so cool to learn my first motorbike in Thailand. Than she advised me go to small island where I can take more photos. So, I agreed to book the excursion for the next day.

Excursion to Koh Pha-Ngan and Small Island - photographer me again  :)

The next day morning, I prepared the trip to Koh Phangan and small island, which I forget to write down the name of the island. The whole trip, takes me from early morning till 4 pm to reach back to Samui. To be honest, it was very nice experience, I went up to the mountain for viewing, eat their local dishes, relaxed on the beautiful white sandy beach and lastly, enjoyed viewing the scenery.

On my fifth day, I planing to visit GrandFather and GrandMother Rock is located nearby Maret Beach, along the way riding on my bike, I encounter dangerous deep curb, if I make one mistake, I will end up warded in hospital, because there's no railing from the site of the slop. Fortunately, I managed to survive. Regarding, the story of Grandfather and Grandmother Rock is a myth but legendary said, "they couple deeply love each other but unfortunately, their parents against their relationships, since the coupls foresake their parent wishes, the parents outburst their magical power and turn them into Rocky Balboa. (Kidding) What they told me, the rock has been there for century before they were born. This what I been informed. After the visiting, I decided to return and plan my next excursion, the elephant shows.

Grandma & Granpa Rock - photographer me  :)

On my sixth day, the agency pick me up at my resort, the elephant farm is actually located at Na Mueang, along the way to Na Mueang, I notice, there are several excursion that we can view, such as waterfall, the temple and etc., we reach Elephant farm about 20 minute, what amazed me, there allot of monkeys surrounded at Elephant farm. They allowed us to fed the elephant with the fund of $5. I seen how they shower the elephant and place them to their cage. Then later, the show starts, amazingly the elephant is smart, funny and adorable. The show, lasted about 40 minutes, then I went to view the temple nearby to elephant farm. One thing about Thai people, they a very faithful to their religion buddha. You can see, every Thai people pay respect to their teacher or buddha priest and donate some money to them for their blessing. Is good to learn from them on how to respect each other and being modest.

Elephant Show - photographer me :)

After the whole afternoon with fun and joy, the travel agent send us home to our resort. Before, I return home, I managed to snap some photos of signage nearby to temple, the words is really encouraging, meaningful and wise.

During at night I usually, hang out at my resort, buy some snacks, and look for nice restaurant nearby. Even though they have allot of night activities such as Muay Thai fight, The Cabaret and etc. but I don't really onto it except Thai Massage, that the most valuable things I done so far. I go for massage every single day after excursion. It was so affordable. I could not resist it, at my country Singapore. You can't never have the same standards as theirs and cheaper then them. So it was a bonus for me.

On the seventh day, that's the last night for me in Samui. Feel a little sad though but I couldn't miss a chance to explored the island, after breakfast as usual, I plan to visit the waterfall where I saw yesterday nearby Na Mueang. I ride my bike to Na Mueang almost 35 minutes. When I reach to waterfall, the guard pointed me at the counter to pay entrance fee which I find it strange. Anyway, when I walked down to unstable slop, I find a place to sat on, nearby to waterfall, I breath the freshing air. It was awesome. Unfortunately, It doesn't last long, it took me 1.5 hours to get out from that location. I open my map and decided to ride the whole Island and it's almost 4 hours. I feel so sleepy afterwards. The long ride is amazing experience, so much to view and so many things I learned thoroughout the journey. After short break, I return my motorbike key to reception, as is already expired in the same time, I asked permission to take their video, and the reception agreed, honestly, they are so co-operative and nice to get aquiantence. I told them, "My departure is tomorrow, I really hope to see you again in near future." Jane's than gave me complimentary dinner and wishes me a safe journey.

Sunset at Lamai Beach - photographer me :)

On my last day in Samui, I learned so much things about life, culture, people and also the environment. Those experience, I'll never forget even though it's been 5 years past. The good memories remain in my heart.

JEALOUSY

Most people do have this mixed feelings of jealousy which program in their thoughts, probably one of them is your colleague, friends, unknown people, and even family members.

Have you ever wonder, where jealous come from?

Most of us define Jealous came from inner feelings which activates our vein sensor which connect to our mind by saying yes, I am JEALOUS.. but it is worth to be jealous? or it just like a humanoid from different dimension? (Oh... yes.. I am special one)

Human being usually get jealous when it come from people who didn't get what they want. For example Mick.

Mr. Mick, is a rich guy who lives in Las Vegas, he has two children with young beautiful wife call Ms Sandra. They live in a mansion of beautiful architectural design. Mr Mick, never stop searching for opportunity to make things best for his family and he always wanted to have a good lifestyle so that everyone in his family, friends and colleague will embrace him for his achievement.

One day, while he driving his SUV Lexus to work, he saw Tom," his neighbor, driving a bigger car than him, it's a SUV Mercedes. He feel awkward and totally disrespectful as they live in Mansion house with a little bit less expensive car than him. He wanted to show the guy, he can buy bigger and most expensive car. He told his wife, that he wish to buy a new car, but his wife disagree, she told him, "Why should you buy a new car? instead of buying, is better to save money for the kids educations?"  He feel undesirable worthless by sharing thoughts with his wife. However, his desired to pursuit new car won't stop him. He call his assistance Anna, to find better and bigger car which is sophisticated than his neighbor SUV Mercedes. What make him pursuing his need? it because the jealousy occupying his thoughts. He cannot let others be better than him, he feel unworthy. He need something to proved his better than anybody especially his competitor. Nothing can stop him by his own will.

One day Sandra, found out, that he receive so many car magazines from letter box, he asked Mick,"Since when you interested to buy all this car magazine?" Mick, said nothing only give excuses to Sandra. His wife is curious, on her husband behaviour.

After few weeks later, Mick arranged with his family for outing, He told them," Today, I am going to drive you guys out to "Amusement Park." Everyone was happy except Sandra, she knew something is wrong here. He tell his family to wait outside their mansion, he will come by and fetch them, Then a Luxury BMW X5 xDrive35i Premium come along, his family shock by surprised. Sandra knew he will do this by avoiding her advised.

While the family ride his new car, Sandra, asked him,"What happened to your Lexus and since when you bought your brand new car? He explained that, he trade in his Lexus, he want his family to be happy. Her wife, didn't speak to him since then.

Conclusion

What really happen to Sandra? Why wouldn't she speak to him? (I will leave your thoughts)

As for my point of view, Sandra, disheartened because of her husband behavior, maybe she doesn't need all this to be proud of, some lady doesn't care about luxury life because they already have it. All Sandra want is to have a respectful relationships and to built a good reputation for their children.

As for Mick, he didn't know why Sandra doesn't want to communicate with him? Is it because he doesn't care? All he want is to be better than the rest of people including his love one. He thought, what ever he do, it's for their own good. For his own perception, being be the best than the rest make him stronger and powerful. Eventually, his wrong by his own selfishness.

Being Jealous, is good to cultivate your ambitions, not by mislead to horrifying decisions to make others look miserable. Filling with jealousy, selfishiness will make others dislike and hindered you for unfortunate events. Avoiding jealousy and respecting others hardships, achievement and ambitions will make others feels securely likes you. The same having a relationships, jealousy will not make relationships stronger but make them difficult to understand each others. Respect other privacy, make them feel good for being themselves. Is what other people do, " Treat people, is how you want others people to treat you" The reflection is base on our behavior nothing is obsolete only us who can make the different.

Thank you for reading my article. Take care and have a great weekend..

Peace 

CHERISH

Cherish is strong words for affection of love..

When we cherish someone, we usually experiencing beyond our emotion towards someone we care.
Cherish is something we cannot express or reveal, is buried in our feelings.

About

Ms. Susan, is single mother with a child. In years back, she's married with a charming man, with a good family oriented. Unfortunately after 2 years of marriage, she finally decided to fill in a divorce to her husband after finding out that he was cheating on her.

Even though the divorce on process, the sweet memories she had with her ex husband couldn't let her forget how he cherish her. The memories she had with him is keeping on projected on her mind, as they walk thru life together.

After 2 years later, she found a man who has a bit similar to her ex husband, they get to know each other from online, they acquaintance was so good, he wanted to meet her, finally she agreed. He flew for many hours across the boarder. Just to meet her. Finally he arrived, they spend time together and shared thoughts. During long hours of chatting, they developed feeling for each other, wondering, participating and fall in love for the first time.

The experience is so much unreal but they both feel the same way. One thing about this man, she doesn't know about his real life background. What she knew, that he and his wife separated, they both reside in two different country and she also aware, that he own a company and wanted to search a good partner. As for him,"he choosen Susan to be her partner and also a lover. He has confident that they can achieve together.

Susan, was enthusiastic to work together with him, with this opportunity, she be able to changed her life and support her child expenses. This make her cherish him more, but unfortunately, she doesn't know what his real intention?

After half past year gone by, the desire working together make their business profitable, she thought that she will get fully supported from him when the income grows and he may employ assistance to help her on the other task but on contrary she only work for herself. She realized that nobody helping her. Unfortunately, she get exhausted due to many tasked that she need to settle within a week, while she was having a break, he call her to follow up the additional program that has been arranged. She couldn't exceed her limitation, unfortunately she couldn't refuse him. Susan has no choice to gone beyond her capabilities in order to achieve her ambition.

After days and months gone by, she no longer tolerated with this kind of nonsense, even though he supplying her with luxury life but in the same time, she has to work harder for him. She realized that she being use for the sake of his business even though they have equal shared but she cannot back off due to commitment she had, she couldn't even escape from his temptation offer to make her stay longer.

Conclusion

To cherish someone is to shared and carry the same burden. For Susan, she has being abuse by him even though she knew, she being use, but nevertheless, she wanted to changed her life in order to survive.

She has a good chance to changed her life by her own will, but she refuse due to lack of confident on her ability, that make her more vulnerable.

When we cherish someone, is better for us to know the person well and don't let other control your heart otherwise, you may fall into trap that no way to escape unless we have determination to say NO.

To love someone is not by escaping burden but to help and have same compassion for each other, then you will have significant balance in your relationships.

Thank you for reading my article, hope everyone have a lovely day

Peace n Love

CONTEMPLATING

Contemplating is a strong words for predicting the future..

Almost everyone has their own plans for the future. But what if? There ain't any future? Everything you plan turn to upside down..?

A story of Mikhail, "He is young artistic and intelligent young man who has big ambition and pure heart.

Mikhail always dire for success, he like to organized everything in vertical order, even one single thing he lapse, he feel nervous and couldn't control his emotion. Like a trembling earthquake. He's a man who is too emotional and sensitive for his work and couldn't accept mistake. He tried all sort of things to work it out to make things perfect. 

One day, his colleague "Tom" asking him about his art work. 

Tom said" Mikhail, what are you doing?
Mikhail: Nothing is just my personal creativity..
Tom: Oh.. Really! How come it look funny?
Mikhail: What do you mean look funny? 
Tom: Yeah! it's look funny from the top?
Mikhail: So you think is funny? Then get **** off from here before I smashed your face with this bar.

Tom's immediately left him, he thought that Mikhail can take his joke. Tom only making things worst as he didn't know that he is a very sensitive person.


The Gossip Begins

During his lunch hours, he went to Starbucks to buy his favorite cappuccino, after he receiving his order, he found a seat near to window, he like view from outside because he can create his imagination by looking at architectural, building, people, fashion and etc.

Then suddenly, Tom's and his other colleague saw him seating alone. Tom thought, he wanted to apologies for his mistake. He then approach Mikhail, when he try to seats beside him, Mikhail, get off from his chair and walk off without looking at him. Tom feel these no reason to apologies if he still behave like a foolish guy. Tom's unsatisfied by his attitude, he then started to gossip with everyone about his character and how he wanted to smash his face with a bar.

Everyone around the office staring at him when he arrived from his lunch. He feel awkward, he wondering, why everyone whisper and staring at him like an foreigner? He tried to ignore, but things getting worst, everyone paste a wallpaper of his art work photos which he create and modify the art into jokes. His heart torn apart by looking at it, for him, is not funny the way people treat his work. It was disdain day for him.

At Home

Mikhail own apartment,  he live in studio house, he liked to decorated his artistic and creativity outlook to look more vibrant, most of his friend and colleague doesn't know where he lived, its privacy for him. He contemplate his work and ambition, His ambition is to be decorator, to plan and organized his work in order to make others feel home. He is more a homely type. He doesn't has a girlfriend and people thought his a gay but actually his not. His a straight guy who is anxious to exploit his work.

When he returned home from work, the incident at office couldn't erase his thoughts, it keep on replaying on his mind. The way how his colleague laugh at him, make fool of his art work and paste on the notice board, which is impertinent to him. He didn't expect this day will happen. He took shower thereafter left to bed. Thinking how the things that he has done in the past and present.

Working His Way Out

The next day, On his way to work, He contemplating his vendetta, against them, he wanted to be assure, everything follow according to his plan. He will do everything to make things revolting. 

It vendetta begins, when Tom's is not around, Mikhail went to his table and take some of his personal belongings, he also took some of his colleague stuff, then he collect them all and place it inside his drawer. Fortunately non of them notice his activities. 

During lunch hours, he waited till everyone goes out from the office in order for him to get the job done. Once the office is empty, he quickly forward his plan which he already done it yesterday night. He quickly took all his colleague stuff and create a funny structure and place in-front of the notice board.

After the lunch hours, they arrived and notice their stuff is missing, they realized someone has place a structure in-front of the notice board. They get fume with anger and all of them complaint to the management. Immediately, Mikhail been called up. He was told to leave the company, because his breaching the contract, he tried to explained why he did it, but the management refuse to listen his query. It's a worst day for him to lose his job. He pack his thing out from the office and apologies to everyone. 

Tormenting

Back at his home, he couldn't do too much, he couldn't do anything for himself either, for a month he got drunk, excessive smoking and didn't call his family and friend for almost a month, he feel ashamed because everyone know his principle and status. After the hard day, he couldn't hide it anymore, he call his parent and told them that he lost his job. Mikhail parent's feel despondent to hear his story, they encourage Mikhail to buckle up and show his potential, Mikhail parent's want him to follow his dream not be demoralized again. It was a moral boost for him, he immediately start to compile all his portfolio collection that he kept for long time. He told himself not to repeat the same occurrence and ignore what others comment bout him or his work.  

Mission

Along his way to find a job in Advertisement industry, he assume that he could get the job easily, he feel confident on his portfolio and education. Among all candidates that waiting for their turn, his name been call up, he then went into the office and approach Mr Hank the manager of the advertisement company that he saw on classified. Mr. Hank impress with his portfolio, showing some interested on his work. He told Mikhail that they will call him upon, if he been selected for the job. Mikhail, feel confident the way Mr. Hank look at his portfolio.

The next day, he so anxious to receive call from them, he waited till 6pm, but still nobody call him. He think, that maybe they are busy and still under process with his application, the following day, still nobody call him, till the fourth day, he cannot tolerate any longer, he directly call them.

The lady answer, she listen to his inquiry and told him, "Unfortunately, the company has selected other candidates, by the way, Thank you for your application, we will let you know, if there's any available position for you in the future".

Thereafter, he thought that his future aren't going to look bright. He call his parent, telling them, that he didn't got the job. His parent's encourage him, not to stop looking for other opportunity because there a wide range of company wanted his talent and never to abort his mission. 

Selection

Finally after 8 weeks of hard searching, he finally was selected. His job title, "Assistance Executive" for home improvement. The innovative company like his idea and his portfolio, they given him a chance to join their company and show his potential, even though his salary not as much he would like too, but the passion and desire make him wanted to exploit more.

Destiny


His boss told him, he destine to be decorator and organizer, all his planned work accordingly. The company profit multiply. For his hard work, he was promote to Executive Director. He thankful for his parent help and encouragement through thick and thin. They were there for him during hard time. His friend started to call him and congrats for his hard work. Everyone envy for his success.

He never forget his parent's advised and where he was back then. He show his gratitude to the one he love and to his boss for giving him the opportunity to work with his company.

Discovery

Tom's somehow discovered that Mikhail was promoted to Executive Director. He told everyone at office, how genius he was, to let a talented person go, is a waste. Everyone agree to Tom speech. Mikhail old colleague call him and congratulate him for his success, they apologies for their mistake and contradicting his position that cause his job.

Mikhail forget bout his foe against them. He told them" I have nothing against all of you and yes of course I forgive, let's forget and put misunderstanding behind us". They notice the significant changes in his life, everyone started to follow his mythology, for them his as an idol. In the end, everyone shared a different story.
 
Conclusion

Everyone can be successful as Mikhail, in the beginning he know that he has potential but he doesn't want to exploit it. When you have talent and passion, don't hold on, embrace it and show the world that you can make it different. I believe, everyone has potential to be success, is only a matter of time, to see the result. Contemplating the future is good, but don't over contemplate it, who know, that it will not turn as what you expected.

Thank you for reading my article, hope you have a beautiful day ahead.

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